How to improve your self esteem
date: 2012-12-10 
time: 17:59:39
time: 17:59:39 1. Stop comparing yourself to others.
2. Stop putting yourself down, and attacking yourself with your own thoughts and words.
3. Don’t reject compliments. Instead of automatically brushing them off, recognize that what has been said is true.
4. Deliberately affirm yourself throughout the day with positive statements like “I am a valuable person; I am unique and have talents and gifts; I am likeable and loveable.”
5. Surround yourself with positive people who can see, and affirm, your worth and value. At the same time, avoid critical and negative people who get a kick out of putting others down.
6. Make a list of the goals you have achieved, and your minor and major successes in life.
7. Make a list of your top 10 traits and remind yourself of these important qualities.
8. Be true to yourself. It’s important that you live an authentic life and be the person you were meant to be. Don’t try to be a replica of anybody else. You have so much to offer – so always be yourself.
Love yourself
date: 2012-12-08 time: 21:20:07
time: 21:20:07 It's easy to be hard on yourself. But when you tell yourself negative things a lot, you can start to believe they are true. Chances are they're lies you tell yourself. Before you turn to unhealthy habits to feel better, give those lies the boot! Here are some common lies and how to cope.
Lie #1: I'm not attractive.
Try: Doing a reality check.
Feel bad because of how perfect models and stars look? Remember, it's not real. Stylists and airbrushing help them look that way. Next, look at yourself. Find specific features that you like. Maybe you have great eyes or an incredible smile. Focus on the positives.
Positive self-talk:
Think about something positive when you're feeling bad. If you do this long enough, you can change your brain for the better. Here's how to do it.
Step 1: Realize when you put yourself down.
Step 2: Actively say a positive message to yourself instead.
Step 3: Repeat.
Lie #2: I'm fat.
Try: Questioning your belief.
First, there's more to you than how you look. Plus, we often believe negative thoughts without any proof. Worried you're overweight? Make an appointment with your doctor. You could also use a teen BMI (body mass index) calculator to get a better idea of where you stand. If your doctor let's you know you're in the overweight range, work together. You can come up with a plan to get healthier and feel better.
Lie #3: I'm bad at sports.
Try: Shifting your focus.
Feeling less than athletic? To get better - practice working on your skills or strength. In the meantime, focus on what you like about sports. Maybe you like your teammates or being outside. Being active is also a great way to burn off stress.
Lie #4: I'm not smart.
Try: Figuring out what you can control.
Nobody's good at everything but you can get smarter. Ask yourself - "Have I gone to my teacher or parents for help?". When things are tough, think about your past successes for inspiration. What are some challenges you and your friends or family members have overcome?
Lie #5: I don't have any friends.
Try: Checking your perspective.
Don't measure your friends by how many you have on Facebook. It's about having good friends. Feeling lonely? Join clubs or teams, volunteer, or take classes to find some friends. Having something in common can help you have an instant bond with people.
Lie #6: I'm too short or too tall.
Try: Letting go.
Height isn't something you can control. Wishing you'd grow taller? Or that you didn't stand out so much? The answer is the same - stand up straight. Good posture makes everyone look confident and better. Then, to keep the confidence going strong, tell yourself something good - like how kind or funny you are.
Practice makes perfect - saying to yourself that you're pretty or smart just once won't work. You believe negative thoughts because you hear them over and over. It's going to take some work and time to replace them but it is doable.
Help from your friends - don't suffer in silence when you're having a hard time. Talk to a parent, coach, or counselor - especially if you've been feeling bad for more than a couple of weeks. For a boost when you're just feeling blah, hang out with friends. They can help you remember your best qualities and feel better.
Is the number on the scales getting you down?
date: 2012-12-01 time: 18:33:42
time: 18:33:42 Girls, girls, girls. I know we all have our own stories and we’re all here for different reasons. But I see A LOT of girls desperately trying to see lower numbers on their scales. It looks to me like the main reason they’re doing it (working out/eating healthy) is to see a low number on scales. The only thing thing keeping them going is the hope that one morning they’ll stand on the scale and their “ultimate goal weight” will be staring them in the face. I believe, and yes this is my personal opinion, that what should be staring you in the face, is yourself in the mirror. Why not forget about the numbers for a while? Check your progress in the mirror, how your clothes fit, compare old photos with new photos, happiness, how well you sleep at night, how much energy you have, how strong you are mentally and physically, there are probably a million other reasons but these are the ones just came to mind now. Different weights look different on every single body. Just because your favourite celeb has a bangin’ bod at a weight, doesn’t mean it’s going to look fantastic on you too. I hope this progress photo will inspire some of you and make you realise that you don’t need to see incredibly low numbers. Don’t let numbers define you. Please. I am genuinely concerned for some of you.
To my followers
date: 2012-10-26 time: 20:16:00
time: 20:16:00 I love you. Every time I get a new follower, or see the number of the amount of people who visit my blog and it has increased, I'm sooo happy. Thank you.
But it makes me sad when I look at some of your instagrams and see your UGWs are waaay below healthy. Or that you're on extreme, unhealthy diets.
I would've hoped that if you followed me you may have seen what you risk with these extreme diets and unhealthy goals. They are a HUGE risk factor for EDs. And EDs are really, really not where you wanna go. They don't make you happy, pretty, sexy, fit, whatever you're aiming for. They make you miserable, more miserable than you can imagine. They make your weight fluctuate like crazy. They make you look unhealthy, bloated, covered in bruises, hairy. They create lasting, very unglamorous internal problems. You can't enjoy yourself. You won't be young, wild, free, or any of those stereotypes. You'll be falling apart while your non-ED friends have fun.
Sorry if this sounds accusatory. I don't mean that. I just really, really don't want you to go through that. The sooner you can prevent it, the better.
So please, if you follow me/read my blog... Think about what your goals are. Be aware of the risks of extreme dieting. Be aware of the risks of unhealthy GWs. Xoxo 
11 ways to become the person you love
date: 2012-10-25 time: 17:21:51
time: 17:21:51 1. Stop judging, and appreciate the beauty within you.
Judging yourself is not the same as being honest with yourself. When it comes to living as a compassionate, non-judgmental human being, the only challenge greater than learning to walk a mile in someone else's shoes, is learning to walk a lifetime comfortably in your own. In every smile there is beauty. In every heart there is love. In every mind there is wisdom. In every human being there is a soul, there is life, there is worth, and there is the ability to see all these things in everyone, including one's self.
2. Treat yourself the way you want others to treat you.
Accept yourself! Insecurity is what's ugly, not you. Be you, just the way you are, in the beautiful way only you know how. The way you treat yourself sets the standard for others. You must love who you are or no one else will either. And when you are truly comfortable in your own skin, not everyone will like you, but you won't care about it one bit.
3. Care less about who you are to others.
Don't lose YOU in your search for acceptance by others. Be aware that you will always appear to be a little less than some people prefer you to be, but that most people are unaware that you are so much more then what they see. You are good enough just the way you are. You have nothing to prove to anyone else. Care less about who you are to others and more about who you are to yourself.
4. Know your worth.
We often accept the love we think we deserve. It makes no sense to be second in someone's life, when you know you're good enough to be first in someone else's.
5. Don't rush intimate relationships.
Love is not about sex, going on fancy dates, or showing off. It's about being with a person who makes you happy in a way nobody else can. You don't need a perfect one, you just need someone who you can trust - who shows you that you're the only one. If you haven't found true love yet, don't settle. There is someone out there who will love you unconditionally, even if it's not the person you were initially hoping for.
6. Let go of those who aren't really there.
There are certain people who aren't meant to fit into your life no matter how much you want them to. And the only ones truly worthy of your love are the ones who stand with you through the hard times and laugh with you after the hard times pass. Maybe a happy ending doesn't include anyone else right now. Maybe it's just you, on your own, picking up the pieces and starting over, freeing yourself for something better in the future. Maybe the happy ending is simply letting go.
7. Forgive yourself and others.
Of all the things that can be stolen from you - your possessions, your youth, your health, your words, your rights - what no one can ever take from you is your freedom to choose what you will believe in, and who and what your heart will love going forward. Life begins where you fear and resentment ends. Just because someone hurt you yesterday, doesn't mean you should hate the world, or start living a life today in constant fear of being hurt tomorrow. When you forgive yourself and others, and stop the inner imprisonment, you're creating the love of your life.
8. Focus on the positive.
Do not let the pain make you hopeless. Do not let the negativity wear off on you. Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness. Even though others may disagree with you, take pride in the fact that you still know the world is a beautiful place. Change your thoughts and you change your reality. Our thoughts are the makers of our moods, the inventors of our dreams, and the creators of our will. That is why we must sort through them carefully, and choose to respond only to those that will help us build the life we want, and the outlook we want to hold as we're living it.
9. Believe in the person you are capable of being.
The real purpose of your life is to evolve and grow into the whole person you are capable of being. Have a mind that is open to everything and attached to nothing. Change really is always possible - there is no ability that can't be developed with experience. Don't ever let your negative beliefs stand in the way of your own improvement.
10. Work on goals you believe in.
Never put off or give up on a goal that's important to you. Not because you still have tomorrow to start or try again, but because you may not have tomorrow at all. Life is shorter than it sometimes seems. Follow your heart today.
11. Keep looking and moving straight forward.
Moving on doesn't mean you have forgotten; it means you have accepted what happened in the past and choose to continue living in the present. Moving on doesn't mean you're giving up; it means you're giving yourself another chance by making a choice to be happy rather than hurt. Through all the problems you have faced, the burdens weighing down on your shoulders, the pain in your heart, you have only one thing to say, "I survived and I now know better for next time.
Stop hating your body. Give yourself a hug instead!
date: 2012-10-12 time: 22:57:08
time: 22:57:08 Right now, go take a look in the mirror and tell yourself that you are beautiful, three times, aloud. If we listen to the world we live in today's subjective point of view on what beauty is, we would never realize our true beauty on the inside and out. If you are completely caught up with your beauty on the outside make it a point to look in the mirror every day, telling yourself a reason why you are beautiful even when it may be what you consider a flaw.
Say for example, you may think your eyes are too small, or too beady. Tell yourself how beautiful your eyes are. The most important beauty a person has is the person that they actually are on the inside. We must know who we are, and act in life only as our true selves, doing this will ensure that we are as perfect as humanly possible.
Guys...remember that every single one of you is amazing just the way you are! You all are beautiful and no one should ever tell you otherwise!
Ten things to do when you feel like crap
date: 2012-09-27 time: 00:21:52
time: 00:21:52 1. Have a really hot, long shower. Cry if you need to. Sit on the ground. Feel sorry for yourself. Let the steam soak into your skin. Let the hot water wash your face clean. But the moment you turn off that water, you are done feeling sorry for yourself. Make a decision to move on from that sadness.
2. Clean. I know, cleaning is boring and annoying - but how about that feeling you get when you are finished? The smell of the vacuum. That feeling of accomplishment? Who knows, you might even find money along the way. Totally worth it. It's like starting with a clean slate.
3. Call a friend you haven't spoken to for a while. If your first choice doesn't pick up, choose someone else. Ask them all about how their lives are going and tell them about yours. Not only will it take your mind off whatever crappy thing you have been plagued by, but you will laugh with them! Laughing triggers endorphins and endorphins make you happy!
4. Go for a run or a walk. This get's your endorphins and dopamine going crazy. You will get more energy and more happiness just because the chemicals in your body are running around!
5. Stop and take it all in. Walking in the night? Stop and look at the stars. Breathe in the cold air. Feel alive.
6. Stop whining. Ever heard the saying "love life and life will love you back"? Or, the idea of the power of attraction? It's true! If you sit around saying "why me, waaaaa waaaa" then bad things will happen to you. You're already defeated. If you start saying, "I will be happy, I will accomplish my ambitions, I will find love, I do look amazing, I am a great friend" etc., then not only will you start to believe them but you will be amazed at what amazing things start to happen.
7. Drink tea. This always works. Not a tea fan? Try hot water with a slice of lemon and some agave syrup.
8. Make a conscious decision to stop holding certain grudges. We all have people we have held grudges on in the past. Let them go. If you feel like you owe this person an apology, don't be too proud. Send them a sincere facebook apology. Sincerity is in the intent, so even if it's a 2 sentence apology - as long as you mean it it's worth it.
9. Cook some really nice, warm food. Stimulate your taste buds with anything as simple as two minute noodles or as lavish as a three course garlic bread, pasta bake, chocolate mousse triple combo.
10. Write down a list of goals to achieve for the week. As simple as "buy insect repellent" or as large as "jog for 25 minutes non stop" and tick them off when they're done. You will feel very accomplished and that alone will help pep up your mood!
