The 7 Things About You That A Good Person Will Notice

   date: 2013-08-13 time: 17:57:04

1. The things you are really passionate about.
How could you not want to pay attention to the things that people are passionate about? We spend so much of our time just going back-and-forth on small talk, rarely touching on a subject that either party feels particularly interested in. And then, like opening up a centuries-old treasure chest of diamonds and gold coins and poorly-written erotic fan fiction, they’ve suddenly found something wonderful! When you love something, your whole being changes. Your face lights up, your body language is more expressive, and you are moved to near-sobbing at the idea of someone actually taking the time to listen to all the things you have so many bubbling, glittering feels about. When someone asks you why you love that comic book or this band or that sport so much — and actually takes the time to learn about it — you know you’ve found a winner.

2. The subjects that are more sensitive for you.
There is a difference between accidentally opening a conversation about something that you aren’t really cool with talking about, and taking a handful of organic sea salt and rubbing into the gaping emotional wound every time you’re together. And if you aren’t into sexist jokes, or talking about a lost friend, or going over painful money issues — a good person will not make you go into it again and again. They won’t squawk across the night sky with the mating call of the unrepentant asshole, “Don’t be so sensitive about it.” They’ll just be cool, and talk about one of the literally limitless other topics you can address. Because they’re not terrible.

3. What you think is most beautiful about yourself.
If you are constantly styling your hair, and doing your very best to make it look good and stand out, people notice that shit. It’s obvious. Someone who is always playing up one feature about themselves is most likely proud of said feature and pleased at the idea of others noticing it more than the rest of them. Perhaps they’re even insecure about other aspects of their appearance, and hope to distract by showing off their big, blue eyes or their elegant, long penis. Either way, when we tell someone how good that thing they’re proud of looks, it basically feels like being butterfly kissed by Jesus himself. It’s that tingly feeling of validation and affection that everyone wants, at least a little bit, and it’s not at all hard to give. Generic compliments are whatever, compliments that are clearly based on the individual and what stands out about them are wonderful.

4. When you put in effort.
It is a natural response, when you try really hard at something — be it a project or at work or looking really fancy for a date night — to get a “good job” and a pat on the head. We all turn into particularly needy dogs and roll over until someone, anyone, scratches our belly and tells us that we were a good puppy. Someone who acknowledges when you go the extra mile, and even tells you what it is that you did well, is someone who knows the very animal, very effective wonder that is positive reinforcement.

5. When you want to get out of a situation.
There will come a moment for all of us, at one point or another, when we are made viscerally, painfully uncomfortable in some kind of a social situation. Whether people are being nasty to us, or the music is too loud and too Pitbull-dependent, or we’ve had a bit too much to drink and just need to lay down and watch our poor decisions spin around us as we close our eyes — it is bound to happen. And a good person is the kind who will pick up on your body language, your pained expression, and your withdrawal from the group to ask if things are okay. Even if they don’t want to leave as well, they’ll make sure you get home safely or at least know you have someone that you can talk to if you’re feeling overwhelmed. They don’t ever let you hang out there and feel like a lone windsock, flapping in the unforgiving breeze. (And you do the same for them.)

6. Whether you’re an introvert or an extrovert, and what that actually means.
A good person will know the difference (introverts can have very busy lives, extroverts can work at home). They will know that it all has to do with where you draw your energy, and what drains you. And even if they aren’t going to adapt their entire lives to fit your emotional needs, they aren’t going to bombard you with comments along the lines of, “Why can’t you just go out and have fun like everyone else?” or “Why do you always need to talk to people — are you that desperate for attention?” They try to find a balance, because their life’s mission isn’t to make you feel badly about being who you are.

7. That you are a multi-faceted human being.
The most important thing that any good person will notice, at the end of the day, is that you are just a regular person, with flaws and successes and dreams and fears. You are not a manic pixie dream girl who is here to save them, you are not a knight in shining armor who has no weaknesses of his own, and you’re not a comic book character that they have constructed in their own minds out of their favorite qualities you possess. Whatever mold they could force you into, you would eventually break and disappoint. And a good person knows, right off the bat, that you’re not just a sidekick to their adventure — you’re living your own story, too.

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Just do it

   date: 2013-04-20 time: 13:59:17
Three simple yet powerful words. Show yourself how you war. You want something? All you have to do is try it. There is no reason for you not to do it. STOP saying ‘I don’t have the time’, ‘I don’t know if I really want it’, ‘I don’t have enough money’, ‘I don’t know where to start’ or ‘I can’t’.
If you want something go get it. I follow a motto in my life.‘Where you look, you are going’. If you feel like you can’t do it because of reasons, such as you don’t have enough money, then you’re right. You’re not doing it. You have to believe that you can do everything. You are able to do everything. Don’t put yourself under the ‘I won’t make it’ feeling. You are a young person. Think. Why can't you do what you want? What are the obstacles? None. The only obstacle is you and your mind. Look back where you’ve been, and then look at the present. Now, emerge.
How does this sound to you? You are going to ‘lose’ because you’re lazy, or because you might be afraid of what others may say. There are a lot of people out there who push papers around and act like they do what they want, BUT they really don’t.
Yes, it might get you in trouble but you must act more than you think.
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Start learning. Get your feet wet and you’ll learn along the way. We weren't born ready for nothing. Everything's coming to our life for a reason, and we have to welcome it. Welcome it the way we know. The best way we know. The kindest. I don’t care who you are; you have time to “just do it” and chase something you want or need. You’ll just have to get less sleep, lose free time, and make lots of other sacrifices.
Yeah that’s it, sacrifices. If you really wanna do something you don’t have to care about circumstances, what others might say or what you leave behind.
If you’ve ever found yourself asking, “Is this all there is to life?” then no, this isn’t all, at all. You have seen nothing, yet. And you, of course, have the time and the will to do it. Inside you. Bring it up, to the surface of yourself and make it happen.
Edmund Hillary, explorer and philanthropist, said once: ”You don’t have to be a fantastic hero to do certain things – to compete. You can be just an ordinary chap, sufficiently motivated to reach challenging goals.” And he is right. Just be willing cause you’re able!
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“Just do it” is much easier said than done. And it should be that way. It separates the people who deserve it from those who don’t. So what are you waiting for? Get to it! Close your browser window, turn off the tv, put down the book or magazine and get going!
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