when someones being actively offensive and trying to justify it then a method of dealing with them i find pretty helpful is when they say “it’s not offensive” ask them if they would be saying the same things if (a person the group theyre targeting) were there and even if they say “YEAH because im not being offensive” you’ll still be able to see the flicker of hesitation in their face and the “uh well no i probably wouldnt ‘cause im a shitty scared baby” in their eyes and that’s pretty satisfying in itself